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#ISJ儿童的特点(ISFJ/ISTJ)

ISJ儿童(内向、感觉、判断)

## ISJ特征:  安静、喜欢沉思;  很实际、现实;  需要稳定性和日常惯例;  可能会很孤僻——很少分享他们的感情和想法;  希望了解规定,并期望每个人都遵守;  因变化而心神不宁;  经常在寻找相关信息;  遇见新认识的人时,谨慎缄默;  不喜欢成为人们的注意中心;  很有选择能力并挑剔;  对自己的身体情况敏感,并爱护;  非常刻板,缺乏想象力;  看上去比实际上老成;  通常擅长管理金钱;  保守而传统;  对事物有很强烈的看法,不喜欢妥协;  整洁、干净;  喜欢参与运动和团体活动。

ISJ潜在强项:

 通常尊敬权威人士,不惹麻烦;
 通常喜欢学校,学习情况较好;
 对细节和事实有着杰出的记忆力;
 系统而高效;
 对艺术美,有很强的鉴赏力;
 耐心;
 忠诚;
 非常勤奋;
 非常可靠,有责任心。

ISJ潜在弱点:

 开始并习惯自己的方式后,很难适应新出现的情况;
 害怕并抗拒变化;
 需要很多时间来习惯一个新想法或新环境,然后才能接受;
 迅速拒绝没有过直接经验的事物;
 需要规则被明确定义,否则会没感觉;
 如果没有遵守规定,可能会变得不安;
 不会从一种情况向另一种情况推断事物;
 对新认识的人和新情况不太信任;
 在放开分享感情方面可能有困难;
 有控制欲,需要总是让形势处于掌控之中。

ISJ学习方式:

 ISJ孩子的观察力很敏锐。他们经常收集事实并储存在大脑中,以便将来参考。当碰到疑难问题或新情况时,他们从这个事实仓库取出信息。对于碰到的问题或情况,如果在个人“资料库”里没有任何资料可以用于形成解决方案,他们就会心神不宁。如果信息仓库中没有任何有用的信息,他们将不知道怎样来考虑当前情况、或如何解决当前问题,然后觉得面对着新情况很无能。为了减小这种问题,任何新想法必须在ISJ已知的信息背景范围内构筑。必须清楚地告诉ISJ所有关于这个新情况的已知事实。如果这个新情况与ISJ已有的某种经验相类似,也必须指出来。“除法就象我们已经会了的乘法,只需要转换一下规则而已。”
 ISJ孩子希望了解需要他们做什么。任何一项特定任务的目标都需要制定得非常清晰。ISJ孩子没有能力自行解决模棱两可的问题。结果是开放式的、并且需要很多创造力的任务,会让ISJ混乱、或许恐惧。
 通过范例和实际动手的体验,ISJ孩子学习效果最好。对于根据描述或理论来做事方面的学习,他们有困难。他们喜欢任务被定义成计划中的每一步。如果只给定一个目标,然后让他们通过自己的方法独自干,他们不会干得很好。他们得确切地理解要做什么,并且通过真正看见目标被完成、或由他们亲自完成,来达到最好的学习效果。只描述在理论上如何运作,会让ISJ对要自己做的事感到混乱、或许害怕。
 ISJ孩子喜欢按部就班地执行任务。如果无法根据任务制定出计划,或者无法预先定义好达成目标的步骤,他们就会对如何完成任务失去方向。
 在这个年纪,ISJ孩子无法较好地使用“直觉”功能。因此,他们在任何情况下都无法综合性地考虑问题,也无法推断词句或情况背后隐藏的含义。对于识别并理解任何象征和隐喻,他们着实感到困难。他们无法将在某种情况下已知的规则推广到另一种类似的情况下。为了最好地完成任何任务或目标,他们需要尽可能多的相关资料。
 ISJ们是勤奋的工作者,通常也是优秀的学生。一般情况下,他们尊敬老师和权威人士。他们会负责地对待家庭作业,努力尝试着做好工作。
 在期望ISJ讨论某个想法、或回答任何问题前,老师和其他成年人应该给他时间来理解这些资料和想法。与大多数人相比,ISJ孩子需要更多的时间,来把新想法并入他们庞大的想法“仓库”。一旦他们学会了什么东西,这些东西将会被实质性地永久保留下来,并被ISJ处置好以备将来使用。

ISJ的特殊需要:

 与其他人格类型相比,ISJ们对于生活中日常惯例及协调一致性的需要尤其偏多。根底不稳的ISJ会惧怕应付任何新的情况。对孩子们而言,几乎所有的体验都是新的,所以这会是你的ISJ孩子的一个大问题。他需要安心感和安全感,而安心感绝大部分来自于有一个稳定的家庭环境。在这个环境中,他们知道,自己要求的和别人对自己行为的要求会被定义得很清晰。
 ISJ们重视日程表和规则,当其他人不重视时,他们会不安。如果3点的时候他们应该到某个地方,他们就会希望到达那里的时间绝对不晚于3点!要是父母将他们送到那里的时间是3:15或者甚至仅仅是3:05,他们都会感到心烦意乱。所以,为了你的ISJ孩子,请准时!
 ISJ们很关注自己身体需求的协调。他们需要有规律的睡眠和饮食。如果得忍受对睡眠和食物的渴望,他们很快会变得心神不宁。没有忙乱烦恼时,他们通常能愉快地上床睡觉。ISJ的父母应该确保孩子有固定的就餐和睡眠时间表。
 ISJ孩子强烈地需要属于并成为群体的一部分。父母应该鼓励他们参与团体活动,例如运动队、(基督)礼拜团,或者音乐团体。ISJ孩子会发现这些团体活动非常有益,并且十有八九会把这种“加入群体”的习惯带入成年。
 对ISJ孩子,需要很清楚地进行规则说明。他们不能将规则从一种情况推广到另一种情况,因此规定需要被清楚定义,以便让他们理解对自己的要求。
 ISJ孩子通过独自消磨时间来充电、恢复精力。他们需要独处的时间,来对当天收集的所有事实进行过滤细察。父母应该重视这种需求,并认识到,花些时间独处有益于孩子的健康。
 向ISJ们介绍新事物,例如新的食品或新的地方时,他们会状态不佳。父母如要缓解这种“介绍”的影响,可以把这个新事物与孩子知道的某件东西进行比较,或者给孩子很多关于这种新体验的资料。父母可以预料到,在能够舒适自如地应对新情况之前,ISJ需要时间消化理解。
 年幼的ISJ们会非常期待有机会向你展示他们所知道的东西。让他们给你看他们喜爱的玩具或研究工程,让他们告诉你所有相关的事情。他们会放得很开,十分兴奋,并欣喜于这样一个事实:对于他们感兴趣的东西,你也感兴趣。

“缺失”的字母:

 成年人的人格类型包含4个字母,对于7至12岁的孩子,我们使用3个字母。那个缺失的字母呢?它在那儿,只是我们通常得等孩子13岁后才能确定它是什么。ISJ孩子将成长为ISTJ“职责履行者”或ISFJ“培育者”。他们到底会选择“思维”还是“情感”来补充其“感觉”偏向,在这个成长阶段还不明显。你将会看到,孩子反复练习“思考”和“情感”,直至在他们更喜欢些的那个功能上安顿下来。对某些孩子,分辨他们“缺失”的字母是可能的;但是对很多孩子,我们还得等上若干年才能确定。

Portrait of an ISJ Child (Introverted Sensing Judging)

## ISJ Traits Quiet and thoughtful Very practical and realistic They need stability and routine May be very private - rarely sharing their feelings and thoughts They want to know the rules, and expect everyone to follow them They are unsettled by change They're constantly seeking information about things Cautious and reserved about meeting new people Don't like to be the center of attention They are very selective and choosy They're very aware and protective of their bodies They're extremely literal Seem older than they are Usually good with money Conservative and traditional Have strong opinions about things, and don't like to compromise They are neat and clean They enjoy participating in sports and team activities

Potential Strengths

They generally respect authority figures and don't give a lot of trouble
They usually like school and do well there
Have excellent memory for details and facts
Organized and efficient
Strong appreciation for aesthetic beauty
Patient
Loyal
They're very hard-working
They're very dependable and responsible

Potential Weaknesses

They can be set in their ways, and have trouble adapting to new situations
They fear and resist change
Need a lot of time to get used to a new idea or environment before they are OK with it
Quick to reject things that they don't have direct experience with
Need to have the rules explicitly defined or they will be lost
May become upset when the rules are not followed
They're unable to extrapolate things from one situation into another
Distrustful of new people and situations
They may have difficulty opening up and sharing their feelings
They're very controlling, and need to always be in control of their situation

ISJ Learning Style

ISJ children are very observant. They are constantly gathering facts and storing them away in their brains for future reference. They use this store of facts to pull information out when they are presented with a problem or new situation. They are unsettled when they are presented with situations or problems and don't have any facts in their personal "database" to apply to find a solution. If their information storehouse doesn't have any helpful information, they don't know how to think about the situation or solve the problem, and feel incapable of facing the new situation. To minimize this problem, any new thoughts should be framed within the context of known data for the ISJ. All known facts about the new situation should be presented clearly to the ISJ. If the new situation is similar to something that is already within the experience of the ISJ, that should be pointed out, i.e. "Division is just like Multiplication, which we already know. The rules are just switched around."

ISJ children want to know exactly what is expected of them. The goal for any particular assignment should be made crystal clear. ISJ children do not have the ability to resolve ambiguity on their own. Assignments that are open-ended and require a lot of creativity will be unsettling and perhaps frightening to the ISJ.

ISJ children learn best by example and hands-on experience. They will have difficulty learning how to do something by description or theory. They like to have their tasks defined as steps in a plan. They do not work best when given a general goal and left alone to do it their own way. They need to understand exactly what to do, and learn this best by actually seeing it done or doing it themselves. Describing how it should work in theory will leave the ISJ confused and perhaps fearful about what they are supposed to do.

ISJ children like to perform tasks as if they were following specific steps in a plan. When they are given tasks that they cannot put into a plan, or cannot pre-define what steps to take to achieve their goal, they are likely to be completely lost as to how to complete the assignment.

ISJ children do not have good access to their Intuitive function at this age. Accordingly, they cannot read between the lines in any situation, and cannot extrapolate any hidden meaning from words or situations. They will have real difficulty identifying and understanding any kind of symbolism or metaphors. They cannot extrapolate known rules from one situation into another similar situation. They need to have as many facts as possible about any assignment and goal to be able to do their best work.

ISJs are hard workers and usually excellent students. They respect their teachers and authority figures in general. They are responsible about doing their homework, and try very hard to do a good job.

Teachers and other adults should give the ISJ time to absorb facts and ideas before you expect them to be able to talk about the ideas, or answer any questions. The ISJ child needs more time than most to incorporate new ideas into their tremendous "storehouse" of ideas. Once they have learned something, it is retained essentially forever, and is at the ISJ's disposal for future use.

ISJ Special Needs

More so than any other personality type, ISJs need routine and consistency in their lives. The ISJ who doesn't have stable roots will be very afraid approaching any new situation. Since almost all experiences are new for children, this could be a very big problem for your child! The ISJ child needs to feel secure and safe, and their feeling of security comes in large part from having a stable home environment, where they know what to expect and expectations for their own behavior are clearly defined.

ISJs respect schedules and rules, and are upset when others don't. If they are supposed to be somewhere at 3:00, they want to be there absolutely no later than 3:00! They can become very distraught over the parent who delivers them there at 3:15 or even 3:05. So, for the sake of your ISJ child, be on time!

ISJs are very in tune with their bodies, and very aware of their bodily needs. They want regular sleep and meals, and will become unsettled quickly if they suffer in want of sleep or food. They will usually go to bed cheerfully without fussing. Parents of an ISJ should make sure that the ISJ can keep a consistent schedule for food and sleep.

ISJ children have a strong need to belong and feel like part of a community. Parents should encourage involvement in group activities, such as sports teams, church groups, or musical groups. The ISJ child will find these group activities highly rewarding, and will in all likelihood carry this "community involvement" habit into adulthood.

ISJ children need to have rules spelled out very clearly. They cannot extrapolate rules from one situation into another, and need to have guidelines clearly defined in order to understand what is expected of them.

ISJ children are recharged by spending time alone. They need time alone to sift through all of the facts that they gather during the day. Parents should respect this need, and recognize that it is healthy for their children to spend some time alone.

ISJs don't do well being introduced to new things, such as new foods or new places. Parents can ease the introduction of new things by comparing the new thing to something that the child already knows, or by giving them lots of facts about the new experience. Parents can expect that the ISJ will need time to absorb a new situation before they're comfortable with it.

Young ISJs will greatly appreciate the chance to show you what they know. Let them show you their favorite toys or projects and let them tell you all about them. They will open up and become excited, and appreciate the fact that you are interested in what interests them.

The "Missing" Letter

Adult personality types contain four letters, while for kids aged 7-12 we use three letter types. What happened to the missing letter? It's there, we just can't usually determine what it is until after a person is 13 years old. ISJ kids will grow up to be either ISTJ "Duty Fulfillers" or ISFJ "Nurturers". At this stage in their development, it's not obvious whether they will choose Thinking or Feeling to complement their Sensing preference. You will see the child practicing both Thinking and Feeling as they settle down into their preferred function. In some children, it's possible to distinguish their "missing" letter, but for many kids we just have to wait a few years to be sure.

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