INJ儿童的特点(INFJ/INTJ)

  1. INJ儿童特点 (内倾、直觉、判断)
    Portrait of an INJ Child (Introverted iNtuitive Judging)


    INJ特征 INJ Traits

    1. They have vivid imaginations
     有鲜明的想象
    2. They're curious about everything, and are always asking "Why?"
     对万事好奇,总在问“为什么?”
    3. They enjoy spending time one-on-one with others, rather than in large groups
     享受与他人单独相处的时光,而非投入大团体中
    4. They're often off in their own world, and have a dreamlike quality
     通常抽离入自我的世界中,有梦幻般的特质
    5. They enjoy art and music
     喜爱艺术与音乐
    6. They love books, and especially enjoy fiction
     喜欢读书,尤其喜欢幻想故事
    7. They're likely to hang back and watch before participating in a social situation
     通常在真正参与社会情境前会犹疑观望
    8. They're intensely private, and don't always share their thought and feelings
     非常孤僻,不常与他人分享自己的所思所想
    9. They like structure and are unsettled by chaos or unplanned events
     喜欢建构,会被混乱与计划外事件打扰到
    10. They prefer sports that focus on individual performance rather than team sports
     在运动项目上,喜欢个人运动而不是团体项目
    11. They are perfectionists
     完美主义者
    12. They're serious and intense
     爱较真,易激动
    13. They often seem older than they are, and may have older friends
     与同龄人相比,看上去比实际年龄显得老成
    14. They are original and independent, and value their uniqueness
     独特而独立,重视自己独一无二的特质
    15. They're not overly concerned with grades, but they want to completely understand a subject that interests them
     不过分关注成绩,但会想完全弄懂吸引他们的课题


    潜在优势 Potential Strengths

    1. They're usually very intelligent
     通常很聪明
    2. They can grasp the big picture easily
     能轻易把握全局
    3. They can see any far-reaching consequences of their actions
     能看到他们行动的任何深远影响
    4. They're very resourceful
     非常足智多谋
    5. They are extremely creative and imaginative
     极富创意与想象力
    6. They easily come up with good ideas
     容易想出好主意
    7. They're usually well-liked by their peers
     通常为同辈所欢迎
    8. They will completely master a subject that interests them
     将会完全掌握吸引他们的课题
    9. Their desire to be in control of themselves makes them take responsibility for their actions
     想要掌控自我的愿望使得他们能够为自己的行为负责
    10. They are usually confident in their ideas, and know instinctively when they are right about something
     通常对自己的看法具有自信,本能地知道他们关于某事的意见才是对的


    潜在劣势 Potential Weaknesses

    1. They have short attention spans
     注意力短暂
    2. They get bored easily with details or routine tasks
     容易对细节和例行公事感到厌倦
    3. They won't put any effort into doing something that doesn't interest them
     对于不感兴趣的事,不会做任何努力
    4. They frequently don't hear people
     通常不去倾听他人
    5. Once they have made up their mind about something, they can be very stubborn about it
     一旦脑袋里认准了某事,就会非常固执
    6. They ignore details
     无视细节
    7. They are unsettled by change, and don't usually adapt well to new situations
     因变化而不安,通常不能很好地适应新的环境
    8. They're uncomfortable and somewhat overwhelmed by large groups
     在大的团体中不安,多少是被压抑着的
    9. They are rather unaware of their environment, and seem "out of it"
     对环境无所觉察,看似“抽身其外”
    10. They are rather self-centered, and may be unaware of how their actions or words affect others
     自我中心,不能觉察到自己的言行会对他人造成何等影响
    11. They can be controlling and bossy
     可能会专制而专横
    12. Although they come up with ideas easily, they don't do as well implementing their ideas
     尽管容易想出主意,但并不容易将想法执行


    INJ学习方式 INJ Learning Style

    INJs are extremely curious and intellectual children who need a wide variety of mental stimulation. When they are interested in a subject, they will naturally want to know everything about it. Teachers should be prepared to point INJ children towards sources where they can learn more about the subject.
    INJ儿童极为聪敏好奇,需要大量的智力刺激。当他们对某个课题感兴趣时,自然想要知道关于它的一切。教师应准备向INJ儿童指出资料源的所在,在那里他们可以学到关于课题的更多东西。

    INJ children don't do well with tasks that require following prescribed steps in a plan or rote memorization. They find these kinds of things extremely boring, and they will resist doing them. They also don't like to do things repetitively. Once they have done something once, they are done with it and want to move on to the next thing. To keep things interesting for the INJ, teachers should give them the basic theory and the desired outcome, and let them figure out how to get there on their own.
    对于需要按部就班与死记硬背的科目,INJ儿童通常表现不佳。他们觉得这类事情着实无聊,刻意抵制去做这类事。他们也不喜欢重复做同样的事。一旦他们做好了一件事,他们就觉得已经做完,想要继续做下一件。为了让INJ对事情保持兴趣,教师应当告知他们基本原理和预期的结果,让他们自己去琢磨如何到达那里。

    Teachers should realize the INJ's weakness of not always being aware of their environment, and recognize that if an INJ didn't hear the teacher, it doesn't necessarily mean that they weren't listening. Sometimes the INJ's private world overtakes the INJ to the point that they completely tune out their environment. As much patience as possible should be shown with this characteristic. INJs will develop some control over this as they grow older.
    教师应当意识到INJ经常无法觉察周围环境的弱点,意识到当INJ没有听到教师说什么,并不意味着他们没有去听。有时INJ完全沉浸在自己的内部世界中,以至于关掉了对环境的感应。对这种性格,只能尽力去保持耐心。等他们长大些,自控能力就会好些了。

    INJs love to come up with ideas, and naturally want to put their ideas into some kind of structure or plan. They want to do this on their own, with little or no direction. They highly prize their ideas and their competence at performing their projects, and are threatened by someone giving them too much direction. This is almost an insult to the INJ, who bases a great deal of their self-esteem on their independence.
    INJ爱拿主意,想把自己的想法变成系统或计划。对这事儿他们乐于自己来,很少需要或压根儿不需要指点。他们对自己的执行力极为自傲,当别人对他们指点太多时会感觉受威胁。甚至这对INJ来说几近侮辱——因为他们极为看重自我独立,视其为自尊的重要基石。

    INJs thrive doing independent projects that require creativity, such as science projects or writing projects. They will probably not enjoy group projects as much, although they are likely to be fine working with one partner on a project.
    INJ擅长独立完成那些需要创造力的作业,例如科学作业或者写作。他们可能并不太喜欢完成团体作业,尽管可能会在需要团队合作的作业中表现得很好。

    Answer the INJ's many questions as thoroughly as possible. If you don't know the answer to a question, be honest and tell them that you don't know. Offer possible avenues for discovering the answer, such as library research.
    对于INJ的众多问题,尽可能地彻底回答。如果你确实不知道答案,就坦白告诉他们。向他们指出可能找到答案的途径,例如去图书馆研究。

    Present the rules and expectations clearly and consistently. INJs naturally crave structure and order. Although they don't want to be told exactly how to do something, they need to understand any rules clearly.
    清楚且一致地表达规则与期望。INJ自然渴望秩序与规则。虽说他们并不想被完全告知到底要做什么,但他们需要彻底理解任何规则。


    INJ的特殊需要 INJ Special Needs

    INJ children need a good amount of time alone. They get most of their energy from within themselves and their rich imaginations, so they need adequate time alone to recharge their batteries. After a long day of school, the INJ may head to their room to spend some time alone. Respect this need of your child's, and understand that once they have spent time alone they will be ready to interact with you. Don't push them to be around yourself or others until they have spent some quality alone time. An INJ who doesn't get the chance to spend any time alone will be irritable, cranky and tired.
    INJ儿童需要大量的时间独处。他们将大部分精力投注自身丰富的想象中,因此需要极多的独处时间来回复能量。在学校里待了一整天后,INJ可能一回家就直奔自己的房间独自待着。应当尊重你的孩子的需要,并明白等他们自己待够了,才能准备好出来与你交流。别逼着他们待在你或其他人周边,除非他们已经有了足够的独处时间。如果INJ没有机会独处,他们会表现得暴躁易怒,精疲力竭。

    INJs who have made up their minds about something can be quite stubborn and unwilling to compromise. When faced with an INJ who has "dug in their heels" about something, take some time to present them with clear and valid alternatives to their way of thinking. This will help the INJ to not become overly rigid, pompous and unbending in their views.
    一旦INJ脑袋里认准了某事,就会非常固执,不想让步。在面对一个“站稳了脚根”的INJ时,花些时间向他们指出他们思路的明确而可取的替代想法。这将会帮助INJ变得不是那么固执自大,抱守自己的想法。

    Socially, pre-teen INJ's are usually fairly reserved and may be intimidated by large numbers of people. They like to watch for awhile before participating. It's best not to push the INJ to interact socially before they are ready. Allow them to watch first, and jump in when they want to. If you are a very extraverted or gregarious adult, don't expect the same behavior your INJ child. INJs usually prefer to interact with one person at a time, and enjoy having a couple of close friends rather than a number of acquaintances. As the INJ gets a bit older, he or she will probably become more social. In the meantime, understand that your child is probably uncomfortable with large groups of people, and don't make them feel guilty for that fear. If your child is afraid of walking into large social situations alone, you might arrange to walk in with your child, or have your child go to the event with a friend.
    在社交上,青春期前的INJ儿童通常会相当有所保留,甚至会被一大堆人吓到。在真正参与其中间,他们乐于稍作观望。最好别在他们准备好之前,就拽着他们投入社交中。允许他们先观望看看,直到自己愿意时再投入。如果你是非常外向而乐于交际的成人,别指望你家的INJ孩子跟你一样。INJ通常喜欢跟人一对一的交流,喜欢拥有三五知己胜过拥有一大堆点头之交。当INJ再长大些,他(她)将会变得更社会化。与此同时,也要明白你的孩子在面对一大群人时并不感到舒服,别让他们因此而内疚。若你的孩子害怕独自面对人群,那就陪着他去面对,或是让他在这样的场合叫上个好友。

    Too many suggestions or feedback on a project while it is still going on may interfere with the INJ's creative energy. Much of the interest in actually doing the project comes from the INJ's drive to prove their inner visions and independence. Any "interference" from the external world will confuse the INJ, and it may cause them to doubt themselves or their idea. In any event, it will usually cause them to lose interest in the project and abandon it. It's probably best to wait until an INJ's project is finished before commenting.
    对于仍在进行中的课题,给出太多的建议或反馈反倒是对INJ的创造力的干扰。大部分INJ对于实际完成课题的兴趣,来源于他们想要证实自己的内在的意象与独立性。任何外界的“干预”都会对INJ造成困扰,甚至可能导致他们怀疑自己的想法。在任何情况下,这都会导致他们失去对课题的兴趣并放弃它。最好是在INJ的课题完成之前,先别去评判。

    Talk through their ideas with them one-on-one. This will help the INJ to put their ideas into context within the external world. The INJ doesn't naturally have a high awareness of how their intensely personal visions fit into the world. Getting them into the habit of talking through their ideas while they are young will help them develop the ability to apply their ideas realistically and effectively.
    一对一地同他们谈论他们的想法。这将有助于INJ将他们的想法与外部世界的情境结合。对于他们极具个人性的想法如何与世界协调,INJ们并不能自然地有高度觉察。在他们年轻时,就培养他们谈论自己观点的习惯,有助于培养他们实际有效地运用自己的想法的能力。


    “缺失”的字母 The "Missing" Letter

    Adult personality types have four letters, while for children aged 7-12 we use three letter types. What happened to the missing letter? It's there, we just can't usually determine what it is until after a person is 13 years old. INJ kids will grow up to be either INTJ "Scientists" or INFJ "Protectors". At this stage in their development, it's not obvious whether they will choose Thinking or Feeling to complement their Intuition preference. You will see the child practicing both Thinking and Feeling as they settle down into their preferred function. In some children, it's possible to distinguish their "missing" letter, but for many kids we just have to wait a few years to be sure.
    成年人的人格类型用四个字母来描述,与此同时对于7-12岁的孩童我们用三个字母来描述。那个缺失的字母是怎么回事儿?它在那儿,只是我们通常在13岁以前没法确定它到底是什么。INJ儿童会成长为INTJ(科学家型)或INFJ(护卫者型)。他们究竟会选择思考或是情感来辅助他们的直觉倾向,在这个成长阶段并不明显。你会看到他们会反复地操练思考与情感功能,直至在更喜欢的那个功能上安顿下来。对有些孩子,我们可能会识别出他们“缺失”的字母,但大多数孩子还得等过些年才能确定。


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    • 心理成长

      INJ儿童特点 (内倾、直觉、判断)

      Portrait of an INJ Child (Introverted iNtuitive Judging)




      INJ特征 INJ Traits


      1. They have vivid imaginations

       有鲜明的想象

      2. They're curious about everything, and are always asking "Why?"

       对万事好奇,总在问“为什么?”

      3. They enjoy spending time one-on-one with others, rather than in large groups

       享受与他人单独相处的时光,而非投入大团体中

      4. They're often off in their own world, and have a dreamlike quality

       通常抽离入自我的世界中,有梦幻般的特质

      5. They enjoy art and music

       喜爱艺术与音乐

      6. They love books, and especially enjoy fiction

       喜欢读书,尤其喜欢幻想故事

      7. They're likely to hang back and watch before participating in a social situation

       通常在真正参与社会情境前会犹疑观望

      8. They're intensely private, and don't always share their thought and feelings

       非常孤僻,不常与他人分享自己的所思所想

      9. They like structure and are unsettled by chaos or unplanned events

       喜欢建构,会被混乱与计划外事件打扰到

      10. They prefer sports that focus on individual performance rather than team sports

       在运动项目上,喜欢个人运动而不是团体项目

      11. They are perfectionists

       完美主义者

      12. They're serious and intense

       爱较真,易激动

      13. They often seem older than they are, and may have older friends

       与同龄人相比,看上去比实际年龄显得老成

      14. They are original and independent, and value their uniqueness

       独特而独立,重视自己独一无二的特质

      15. They're not overly concerned with grades, but they want to completely understand a subject that interests them

       不过分关注成绩,但会想完全弄懂吸引他们的课题




      潜在优势 Potential Strengths


      1. They're usually very intelligent

       通常很聪明

      2. They can grasp the big picture easily

       能轻易把握全局

      3. They can see any far-reaching consequences of their actions

       能看到他们行动的任何深远影响

      4. They're very resourceful

       非常足智多谋

      5. They are extremely creative and imaginative

       极富创意与想象力

      6. They easily come up with good ideas

       容易想出好主意

      7. They're usually well-liked by their peers

       通常为同辈所欢迎

      8. They will completely master a subject that interests them

       将会完全掌握吸引他们的课题

      9. Their desire to be in control of themselves makes them take responsibility for their actions

       想要掌控自我的愿望使得他们能够为自己的行为负责

      10. They are usually confident in their ideas, and know instinctively when they are right about something

       通常对自己的看法具有自信,本能地知道他们关于某事的意见才是对的




      潜在劣势 Potential Weaknesses


      1. They have short attention spans

       注意力短暂

      2. They get bored easily with details or routine tasks

       容易对细节和例行公事感到厌倦

      3. They won't put any effort into doing something that doesn't interest them

       对于不感兴趣的事,不会做任何努力

      4. They frequently don't hear people

       通常不去倾听他人

      5. Once they have made up their mind about something, they can be very stubborn about it

       一旦脑袋里认准了某事,就会非常固执

      6. They ignore details

       无视细节

      7. They are unsettled by change, and don't usually adapt well to new situations

       因变化而不安,通常不能很好地适应新的环境

      8. They're uncomfortable and somewhat overwhelmed by large groups

       在大的团体中不安,多少是被压抑着的

      9. They are rather unaware of their environment, and seem "out of it"

       对环境无所觉察,看似“抽身其外”

      10. They are rather self-centered, and may be unaware of how their actions or words affect others

       自我中心,不能觉察到自己的言行会对他人造成何等影响

      11. They can be controlling and bossy

       可能会专制而专横

      12. Although they come up with ideas easily, they don't do as well implementing their ideas

       尽管容易想出主意,但并不容易将想法执行




      INJ学习方式 INJ Learning Style


      INJs are extremely curious and intellectual children who need a wide variety of mental stimulation. When they are interested in a subject, they will naturally want to know everything about it. Teachers should be prepared to point INJ children towards sources where they can learn more about the subject.

      INJ儿童极为聪敏好奇,需要大量的智力刺激。当他们对某个课题感兴趣时,自然想要知道关于它的一切。教师应准备向INJ儿童指出资料源的所在,在那里他们可以学到关于课题的更多东西。



      INJ children don't do well with tasks that require following prescribed steps in a plan or rote memorization. They find these kinds of things extremely boring, and they will resist doing them. They also don't like to do things repetitively. Once they have done something once, they are done with it and want to move on to the next thing. To keep things interesting for the INJ, teachers should give them the basic theory and the desired outcome, and let them figure out how to get there on their own.

      对于需要按部就班与死记硬背的科目,INJ儿童通常表现不佳。他们觉得这类事情着实无聊,刻意抵制去做这类事。他们也不喜欢重复做同样的事。一旦他们做好了一件事,他们就觉得已经做完,想要继续做下一件。为了让INJ对事情保持兴趣,教师应当告知他们基本原理和预期的结果,让他们自己去琢磨如何到达那里。



      Teachers should realize the INJ's weakness of not always being aware of their environment, and recognize that if an INJ didn't hear the teacher, it doesn't necessarily mean that they weren't listening. Sometimes the INJ's private world overtakes the INJ to the point that they completely tune out their environment. As much patience as possible should be shown with this characteristic. INJs will develop some control over this as they grow older.

      教师应当意识到INJ经常无法觉察周围环境的弱点,意识到当INJ没有听到教师说什么,并不意味着他们没有去听。有时INJ完全沉浸在自己的内部世界中,以至于关掉了对环境的感应。对这种性格,只能尽力去保持耐心。等他们长大些,自控能力就会好些了。



      INJs love to come up with ideas, and naturally want to put their ideas into some kind of structure or plan. They want to do this on their own, with little or no direction. They highly prize their ideas and their competence at performing their projects, and are threatened by someone giving them too much direction. This is almost an insult to the INJ, who bases a great deal of their self-esteem on their independence.

      INJ爱拿主意,想把自己的想法变成系统或计划。对这事儿他们乐于自己来,很少需要或压根儿不需要指点。他们对自己的执行力极为自傲,当别人对他们指点太多时会感觉受威胁。甚至这对INJ来说几近侮辱——因为他们极为看重自我独立,视其为自尊的重要基石。



      INJs thrive doing independent projects that require creativity, such as science projects or writing projects. They will probably not enjoy group projects as much, although they are likely to be fine working with one partner on a project.

      INJ擅长独立完成那些需要创造力的作业,例如科学作业或者写作。他们可能并不太喜欢完成团体作业,尽管可能会在需要团队合作的作业中表现得很好。



      Answer the INJ's many questions as thoroughly as possible. If you don't know the answer to a question, be honest and tell them that you don't know. Offer possible avenues for discovering the answer, such as library research.

      对于INJ的众多问题,尽可能地彻底回答。如果你确实不知道答案,就坦白告诉他们。向他们指出可能找到答案的途径,例如去图书馆研究。



      Present the rules and expectations clearly and consistently. INJs naturally crave structure and order. Although they don't want to be told exactly how to do something, they need to understand any rules clearly.

      清楚且一致地表达规则与期望。INJ自然渴望秩序与规则。虽说他们并不想被完全告知到底要做什么,但他们需要彻底理解任何规则。




      INJ的特殊需要 INJ Special Needs


      INJ children need a good amount of time alone. They get most of their energy from within themselves and their rich imaginations, so they need adequate time alone to recharge their batteries. After a long day of school, the INJ may head to their room to spend some time alone. Respect this need of your child's, and understand that once they have spent time alone they will be ready to interact with you. Don't push them to be around yourself or others until they have spent some quality alone time. An INJ who doesn't get the chance to spend any time alone will be irritable, cranky and tired.

      INJ儿童需要大量的时间独处。他们将大部分精力投注自身丰富的想象中,因此需要极多的独处时间来回复能量。在学校里待了一整天后,INJ可能一回家就直奔自己的房间独自待着。应当尊重你的孩子的需要,并明白等他们自己待够了,才能准备好出来与你交流。别逼着他们待在你或其他人周边,除非他们已经有了足够的独处时间。如果INJ没有机会独处,他们会表现得暴躁易怒,精疲力竭。



      INJs who have made up their minds about something can be quite stubborn and unwilling to compromise. When faced with an INJ who has "dug in their heels" about something, take some time to present them with clear and valid alternatives to their way of thinking. This will help the INJ to not become overly rigid, pompous and unbending in their views.

      一旦INJ脑袋里认准了某事,就会非常固执,不想让步。在面对一个“站稳了脚根”的INJ时,花些时间向他们指出他们思路的明确而可取的替代想法。这将会帮助INJ变得不是那么固执自大,抱守自己的想法。



      Socially, pre-teen INJ's are usually fairly reserved and may be intimidated by large numbers of people. They like to watch for awhile before participating. It's best not to push the INJ to interact socially before they are ready. Allow them to watch first, and jump in when they want to. If you are a very extraverted or gregarious adult, don't expect the same behavior your INJ child. INJs usually prefer to interact with one person at a time, and enjoy having a couple of close friends rather than a number of acquaintances. As the INJ gets a bit older, he or she will probably become more social. In the meantime, understand that your child is probably uncomfortable with large groups of people, and don't make them feel guilty for that fear. If your child is afraid of walking into large social situations alone, you might arrange to walk in with your child, or have your child go to the event with a friend.

      在社交上,青春期前的INJ儿童通常会相当有所保留,甚至会被一大堆人吓到。在真正参与其中间,他们乐于稍作观望。最好别在他们准备好之前,就拽着他们投入社交中。允许他们先观望看看,直到自己愿意时再投入。如果你是非常外向而乐于交际的成人,别指望你家的INJ孩子跟你一样。INJ通常喜欢跟人一对一的交流,喜欢拥有三五知己胜过拥有一大堆点头之交。当INJ再长大些,他(她)将会变得更社会化。与此同时,也要明白你的孩子在面对一大群人时并不感到舒服,别让他们因此而内疚。若你的孩子害怕独自面对人群,那就陪着他去面对,或是让他在这样的场合叫上个好友。



      Too many suggestions or feedback on a project while it is still going on may interfere with the INJ's creative energy. Much of the interest in actually doing the project comes from the INJ's drive to prove their inner visions and independence. Any "interference" from the external world will confuse the INJ, and it may cause them to doubt themselves or their idea. In any event, it will usually cause them to lose interest in the project and abandon it. It's probably best to wait until an INJ's project is finished before commenting.

      对于仍在进行中的课题,给出太多的建议或反馈反倒是对INJ的创造力的干扰。大部分INJ对于实际完成课题的兴趣,来源于他们想要证实自己的内在的意象与独立性。任何外界的“干预”都会对INJ造成困扰,甚至可能导致他们怀疑自己的想法。在任何情况下,这都会导致他们失去对课题的兴趣并放弃它。最好是在INJ的课题完成之前,先别去评判。



      Talk through their ideas with them one-on-one. This will help the INJ to put their ideas into context within the external world. The INJ doesn't naturally have a high awareness of how their intensely personal visions fit into the world. Getting them into the habit of talking through their ideas while they are young will help them develop the ability to apply their ideas realistically and effectively.

      一对一地同他们谈论他们的想法。这将有助于INJ将他们的想法与外部世界的情境结合。对于他们极具个人性的想法如何与世界协调,INJ们并不能自然地有高度觉察。在他们年轻时,就培养他们谈论自己观点的习惯,有助于培养他们实际有效地运用自己的想法的能力。




      “缺失”的字母 The "Missing" Letter


      Adult personality types have four letters, while for children aged 7-12 we use three letter types. What happened to the missing letter? It's there, we just can't usually determine what it is until after a person is 13 years old. INJ kids will grow up to be either INTJ "Scientists" or INFJ "Protectors". At this stage in their development, it's not obvious whether they will choose Thinking or Feeling to complement their Intuition preference. You will see the child practicing both Thinking and Feeling as they settle down into their preferred function. In some children, it's possible to distinguish their "missing" letter, but for many kids we just have to wait a few years to be sure.

      成年人的人格类型用四个字母来描述,与此同时对于7-12岁的孩童我们用三个字母来描述。那个缺失的字母是怎么回事儿?它在那儿,只是我们通常在13岁以前没法确定它到底是什么。INJ儿童会成长为INTJ(科学家型)或INFJ(护卫者型)。他们究竟会选择思考或是情感来辅助他们的直觉倾向,在这个成长阶段并不明显。你会看到他们会反复地操练思考与情感功能,直至在更喜欢的那个功能上安顿下来。对有些孩子,我们可能会识别出他们“缺失”的字母,但大多数孩子还得等过些年才能确定。



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    • 痴子(INFJ)04-12 15:36
      然而事实是,不会有人这么注意你这样一个个体的差异,而去给你特殊的关心……
      实际上在成长过程中只觉得被不断告知官方或者大众的做法,思路,行为等是怎样的。比如高中鼓起勇气问老师问题,他只是打断了我告诉我这些东西不会考无需深思,然后我就再也没有请教过。而曾经对这个老师能力的敬爱也在那天之后锐减……虽然知道他也是对的……
      而当年纪小的时候,处于对权威的尊敬也好豪情等等也好,我想大家难免会对自己的“不符合”有所自我怀疑和退缩和担忧吧……虽然现在回首会感觉当年的纠结不值一提,然而的确在生命里留下了深刻的痕迹……
      诶……看完这个有点心疼infj,倒不是因为自己是。大概是因为自己大致是所以更有感触吧。接触到很多infj的宝宝们,很多或多或少有些抑郁啊……
      诶诶,希望自己以后能更好的体谅他人吧……
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    • 玛德瑞拉(INTJ)2016-10-14 删除回复@TA
    • sql123(INTP)2016-01-28
      @kerryxuke 相信直觉是NF型的特点,骨子里还是INFJ
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    • TheTruth(ENTJ)2015-11-24
      10岁前,像ETJ,10到13岁时像INJ。
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    • xieyi666666(INFJ)2015-11-01
      太准了
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    • xieyi666666(INFJ)2015-11-01
      @zqiaogd metoo
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    • zqiaogd(ISTJ)2015-08-15
      不要这么准好吗,无法长时间和别人待在一起,随兴趣,
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    • Mockingjay-咘篼貓(INFJ)2014-06-29
      我觉得我小时候不是I,长着长着就变了
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    • kerryxuke(INTJ)2014-05-24
      直觉告诉我我天性应该是INFJ 也许我特么就是在这个过程中长成苦逼的INTJ╮(╯_╰)╭
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    • 番枧(INFJ)2014-04-02
      毫无偏差全中[骷髅]尤其是劣势
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    • tie(INTJ)2013-12-22 删除回复@TA
    • 噗奇奇(INTJ)2013-02-05
      别逼着他们待在你或其他人周边,除非他们已经有了足够的独处时间。如果INJ没有机会独处,他们会表现得暴躁易怒,精疲力竭。(我才知道为什么一开始很高兴的邀请小朋友到家里玩的结果是送走她们的时候感觉很疲惫。)
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    • charlotte(INTP)2012-09-22
      一模一样...
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